How am I feeling today!


I started checking in with myself, in the morning when I get up. I normally go into work mode immediately, but I am discovering more ways to help me in my recovery process. 

For a few minutes, I stop my mind that is on go mode and ask myself, how am I feeling today?

"Today I am tired." "I am afraid- had nightmares again."

"There are some things that may require reaching out, but I am struggling, why?" "It may be self-confidence." Again, why? There are many reasons, core beliefs and core reasons I’m still working on. 

Also, "what am I afraid of?" I stay with the fear, recognize it, name it. This way I have more control over it instead of the other way around. "Is my fear valid?" Therapy is helping in recognizing that most of the time my fears are actually valid. By knowing this I can concentrate on what to do next to help my mind get unstuck.

Yesterday, when I checked in with myself, I felt disoriented. The following question was, how are you coping? In that case it was with acceptance. Telling myself I don't have to feel okay, and it's all right. I felt like a switch just went off and my brain was gone. I was gone. Trying to resolve an issue with a work report helped, even if it took a lot from me. 

My therapist keeps telling me to meet myself from where I am at. It is extremely helpful to hear this. Reminding myself that yes, I am healing, but I also need to adapt, accept & cope. Daily.

I am realizing I also need to keep checking in with myself throughout the day, especially when I start feeling activated.

This process is teaching me that I am what's most important.

Here,

Paty ♥



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